Enjoy Honeymoon

Enjoy Honeymoon As Per Kamasutra

FOR the first three days after marriage, the girl and her husband
sleep on the floor, abstain from sexual pleasures, and eat their food
without seasoning it either with alkali or salt. For the next seven
they should bathe amidst tire sounds of auspicious musical instruments,
should decorate themselves, dine together, and pay attention to their
relations as well as to those who may have come to witness their

This is applicable to persons of all castes. On the night of the tenth
the man should begin in a lonely place with soft words, and thus create
confidence in the girl. Some authors say that for the purpose of
winning her
over he should not speak to her for three days, but the followers of Babhravya are of opinion that if the man does not speak with her for
days, the girl may be discouraged by seeing him spiritless like a
and, becoming dejected, she may begin to despise him as a eunuch.
says that the man should begin to win her over, and to create
confidence in
her, but should abstain at first from sexual pleasures. Women, being of
tender nature, want tender beginnings, and when they are forcibly
by men with whom they are but slightly acquainted, they sometimes
become haters of sexual connection, and sometimes even haters of the
sex. The man should therefore approach the girl according to her
liking, and
should make use of those devices by which he may be able to establish
himself more and more into her confidence. These devices are as

He should embrace her first of all in a way she likes most, because it
not last for a long time.

He should embrace her with the upper part of his body because that is
and simpler. If the girl is grown up, or if the man has known her for
time, he may embrace her by the light of a lamp, but if he is not well
acquainted with her, or if she is a young girl, he should then embrace
in darkness.

When the girl accepts the embrace, the man should put a tambula or
screw of
betel nut and betel leaves in her mouth, and if she will not take it,
should induce her to do so by conciliatory words, entreaties, oaths,
kneeling at her feet, for it is a universal rule that however bashful
angry a woman may be she never disregards a man's kneeling at her feet.
the time of giving this tambula he should kiss her mouth softly and
gracefully without making any sound. When she is gained over in this
he should then make her talk, and so that she may be induced to talk he
should ask her questions about things of which he knows or pretends to
nothing, and which can be answered in a few words. If she does not
speak to
him, he should not frighten her, but should ask her the same thing
again and
again in a conciliatory manner. If she does not then speak he should
her to give a reply because, as Ghotakamukha says, 'all girls hear
everything said to them by men, but do not themselves sometimes say a
word'. When she is thus importuned, the girl should give replies by
of the head, but if she has quarrelled with the man she should not even
that. When she is asked by the man whether she wishes for him, and
she likes him, she should remain silent for a long time, and when at
importuned to reply, should give him a favourable answer by a nod of
head. If the man is previously acquainted with the girl he should
with her by means of a female friend, who may be favourable to him, and
the confidence of both, and carry on the conversation on both sides. On
an occasion the girl should smile with her head bent down, and if the
friend say more on her part than she was desired to do, she should
chide her
and dispute with her.

The female friend should say in jest even what
she is
not desired to say by the girl, and add, 'she says so', on which the
should say indistinctly and prettily, 'O no! I did not say so', and she
should then smile and throw an occasional glance towards the man.

If the girl is familiar with the man, she should place near him,
saying anything, the tambula, the ointment, or the garland that he may
asked for, or she may tie them up in his upper garment. While she is
in this, the man should touch her young breasts in the sounding way of
pressing with the nails, and if she prevents him doing this he should
say to
her, ' I will not do it again if you will embrace me', and should in
way cause her to embrace him. While he is being embraced by her he
pass his hand repeatedly over and about her body. By and by he should
her in his lap, and try more and more to gain her consent, and if she
not yield to him he should frighten her by saying 'I shall impress
marks of
my teeth and nails on your lips and breasts, and then make similar
marks on
my own body, and shall tell my friends that you did them. What will you
then?' In this and other ways, as fear and confidence are created in
minds of children, so should the man gain her over to his wishes.

On the second and third nights, after her confidence has increased
more, he should feel the whole of her body with his hands, and kiss her
over; he should also place his hands upon her thighs and shampoo them,
if he succeed in this he should then shampoo the joints of her thighs.
she tries to prevent him doing this he should say to her, 'What harm is
there in doing it?' and should persuade her to let him do it. After
this point he should touch her private parts, should loosen her girdle
the knot of her dress, and turning up her lower garment should shampoo
joints of her naked thighs. Under various pretences he should do all
things, but he should not at that time begin actual congress.

this he
should teach her the sixty-four arts, should tell her how much he loves
and describe to her the hopes which he formerly entertained regarding
He should also promise to be faithful to her in future, and should
all her fears with respect to rival women, and, at last, after having
overcome her bashfulness, he should begin to enjoy her in a way so as
not to
frighten her. So much about creating confidence in the girl; and there
moreover, some verses on the subject as follows:

'A man acting according to the inclinations of a girl should try to
gain her
over so that she may love him and place her confidence in him.

A man
not succeed either by implicitly following the inclination of a girl,
or by
wholly opposing her, and he should therefore adopt a middle course. He
knows how to make himself beloved by women, as well as to increase
honour and create confidence in them, this man becomes an object of
love. But he who neglects a girl, thinking she is too bashful, is
by her as a beast ignorant of the working of the female mind. Moreover,
girl forcibly enjoyed by one who does not understand the hearts of
becomes nervous, uneasy, and dejected, and suddenly begins to hate the
who has taken advantage of her; and then, when her love is not
understood or
returned, she sinks into despondency, and becomes either a hater of
altogether, or, hating her own man, she has recourse to other men. it
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